Mod Message

Buckle in BJS - this is a long but necessary one as I’m stopping in with a mod message for y’all ❤

We’ve got an awesome number of people here in this community. And as mods and admins, it's our job to pay attention to whose posting and what. And we realized we have a limited amount of folks who share with us on a frequent basis.

Without hearing from you as to why, one can only speculate. Y’all are so wonderful at engaging with those who do post and we absolutely appreciate it so much. But we want more of you! We want to get to know you. We want to see your faces, hear your thoughts, learn from you, answer your questions, and share in your everyday magic. With a nudge from Krissy Tulip, I wanted to take some time to talk with all of you.

BJS is centered on building community. And with that, comes sharing at a level of which you are comfortable. We know this is individual to you and we respect your thoughts and feelings on this. Some are more willing to share than others, and that's cool.

Sharing is how we get to know one another. It’s how we learn from one another. It’s how we build something bigger than ourselves with like-minded individuals. It's why we're here.

By now, you hopefully know and understand what the group is about, have reviewed our group rules, and can gauge that we are a safe and inclusive space that is sex-positive, body-positive, and welcome to all things witchy and occult.

But here’s the thing - BJS is more than just sex and magic. Human beings are more than just sex and magic. We just happen to be a community that celebrates both. And get this - your version of magic, your version of sexy, is unique to you. Where you are on your life and spiritual journey is also unique to you.

Are you just starting out? Are you dab smack in the middle? Are you a seasoned professional? Are you curious? Are you dabbling? Are you seeking to learn more just to learn, or to eventually to put something into practice?

For the purpose of expansion beyond the labeled buckets of sex and magic and what you believe them to encompass - I’m going to share my take on both. This is just in case you might be apprehensive to share, or because our minds love to gravitate towards pre-conceived notions, towards black and white white no grey areas, towards being all in or nothing, towards questioning ourselves because someone out there is doing it better, doing it longer, or doing it right, or because we’re scared to share because we aren’t good enough yet, because we’re not there yet. This list is endless.

For me, witchcraft is infused into my daily life. “Witch” is my lifestyle. From the outside looking in, it’s pretty nondescript. Spells and rituals are limited. Seasonal celebrations happen, well… seasonally. I pull cards for divination when I’m called to or I require clarification and guidance. The deity I work with has me focused on continuous self-development and driving forward personal pursuits that I’ve long stalled out on. Seems pretty boring right?

I’m not out there dancing naked through the woods under a full moon. I’m traipsing around my yard with dirty bare feet and a baseball cap talking to my plants. Intentions are muttered under my breath. Sometimes spells are written on a piece of paper in my parked car while I chant - immediately before I muster the strength to go do what I am about to do. I manifest by day-dreaming. I infuse the dinner I cook with the nourishment of love. I pick weeds and make medicine out of them. I rescue bugs. I consider the birds of my backyard as part of the family. I protect what lives here. I give back by planting native.

My point is… a lot of the magic in our lives looks like mundane shit you think no one will care about or no one will actually consider to be magic. I'm here to tell that will be true only if that’s how you choose to see it.

Magic is so much more than spells and rituals, crystal and candle collections, and building relationships with the gods and spirits. If we go looking for magic, we can find it all around us. You yourself are magic. And that’s what we want shared here in the BJS community.

Magic is healing. Magic is transformation. Magic is self-development and self-discovery. Magic is kindness and compassion. Magic is knowledge and learning. It’s cooking, creating, crafting, and building. It’s self love and self expression. It’s family. It’s friends. It’s community.

The same goes for sex. Sex extends beyond our physical bodies and what we do with them. It can encompass more than the act itself or the physical expression of the body. It’s absolutely more than just nudity. It’s not a one-size fits all thing - It’s not a particular lifestyle, it’s not a particular body type, it’s not a particular expression or feeling. It’s not a requirement to partake or opt in to all that you see and learn here in order to share, to ask questions, to be curious, to celebrate what sex and sexy means to someone else.

Being inclusive means that we also have folks who view, feel, and experience “sex” differently. What it means to be sexy or to engage in a sexual way might be very different from you. We’re asking for acceptance and openness here. We’re asking for respectful dialog and the respect of an individual’s willingness to share, to express themselves, and sometimes be very raw and vulnerable.

But back to my point… sexy is more than sex. Sexy can be confidence. Sexy can be nerding out over something you love. Sexy can simply be showing up as yourself. Sexy can be courageous. Sexy can be discovering something new about yourself. Sexy can be taking a leap of faith. Sexy can be leaving something toxic behind. Sexy can be celebrating sobriety, achieving a milestone, or even getting through a shitty-ass day to tackle the next one. Sexy can be shedding an old skin that no longer fits you. Sexy can be standing up for yourself and setting a new boundary. Finding a new hobby or activity that you love. Inspiring someone. Embracing a part of you that you once hid away. Being vulnerable. Being open-minded. Engaging in meaningful conversations. A willingness to learn. Admitting a mistake. Showing yourself or others love and compassion. Being kind. BEING YOURSELF.

Magic and beauty can be found in all things. It’s everywhere. It’s all around us. Don’t second guess your sexy. Don’t second your magic. It’s never too mundane to share with us. We build connections by people choosing to share parts of ourselves with another.

You never know who might be out there who could be saying, “OMG me too!” or “I never thought about it that way” or “I learned something new from you” or “I’m totally going to try that next time” or “you inspired me!”

And if you're still here reading, from this mod's heart, THANK YOU. Y'all are awesome and we're so glad that you're here. ❤